Using the Good Book

Todays blog is on the topic of life lessons that God wants us to know. Some of these you will notice teach us how to be good people, good wives, good husbands and good sons.
 Let`s first start with marriage altogether
It is true that God has scripture in the Bible that says that it is better for man not to marry or ever have sexual relations but if we must it is not a sin. 1Corinthians 7:2-5 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
² Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
³ Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
⁴ The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
⁵ Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
God also says that he wants us to marry one person and stay with that person until death due you part  
Mark 10:6-9
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
⁷ For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
⁸ And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
⁹ What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Although we like to throw our own understanding into the Bible God is very clear in this area. Women are allowed to remarry in the case of death as well. 1Corinthians 7:39  The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
Provisions for divorce are included in the Bible as well but Jesus later says the only two valid reasons for divorce is infidelity and abuse. Marriage was meant to be until death and God very much feels this way still. We should be able to work through our problems together. If you divorce for any other reason you are not to remarry or you are then guilty of adultery.  If you are in this position you may not have known that this was a sin. In this case it would be the same as anything else. You would be required to repent of your ignorance of Gods laws and ask for forgiveness to which it will be given ;) God is very forgiving and no matter what your sin his grace offers redemption from them.

Harmony at home is one of the greatest blessings in life.  Proverbs 17:1 Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of sacrifices with strife.The number one problem in marriages and families is strife.

What makes a good wife according to God. Here are a few scriptures on this topic.

A GOOD WIFE
Proverbs 31:10-31  "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
¹¹ The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
¹² She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
¹³ She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
¹⁴ She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
¹⁵ She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
¹⁶ She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
¹⁷ She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
¹⁸ She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
¹⁹ She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
²⁰ She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
²¹ She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
²² She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple."

Because it was Eve that was deceived in the Garden of Eden , the man is to make the final decision, but the decisions are to be made together as a family.  1Timothy 2:11-14   Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
¹² But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
¹³ For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
¹⁴ And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression
 This of course using rationale and scripture means specifically that because women may use their heart and be easily led astray the man of the home AFTER MUTUAL DISCUSSIONS with the wife would make a final decision that is best for the family as a whole.  He is to be the Man of the Home and women are to accept that duty of in their husband.

Proverbs 11:16 A gracious woman retaineth honour

Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.

Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 14:1  Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.



Ephesians 5:22   Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
It needs to be noted so not to be confused other scripture follows with the specific instruction from God that we are to submit to one another in a marital relationship, not just the wife submitting as some denominations perceive the Bible to read.


 Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Submitting to one another out of the reverence to Christ. It is not to be one sided where the woman does everything the man says and there is no give and take.  Its a very two way street but the premise is to treat your spouse better than yourself but still an equal in decision making. If we are honest, despite this new Girl Power movement that seems to have gotten out of control, women really are a weaker species physically FOR THE MOST PART. I am aware that some women are larger than men and could perform some of these physical jobs and tasks and by all means...you go girl, but if we need to change test standards etc then maybe that job isnt a "male,female" job persay..... MAYBE its just a physical job that requires more power and strength to complete. If women could adequately perform in the same time limit the same tasks then they should qualify however if not....maybe a different career should be in the works is all Im sayin instead of playing politics.  ;)


Bible scripture on how to be GOOD HUSBANDS 
 Husbands be understanding with your wife.  Show honour to her as the weaker partner as wives are the grace of life so that prayers may not be hindered.  1Peter 3:7  Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Ephesians 5:23-29 
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
²⁴ Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
²⁶ That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
²⁷ That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
²⁸ So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
²⁹ For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Ephesians 5:33  Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

1Corinthians 11:3  But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
²⁶ I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
²⁷ Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
²⁸ But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
²⁹ But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
³⁰ And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;

The Bible talks about how to be A GOOD SON 
Proverbs 13 
A wise son heareth his father's instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.
² A man shall eat good by the fruit of his mouth: but the soul of the transgressors shall eat violence.
³ He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life: but he that openeth wide his lips shall have destruction.
⁴ The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.
⁵ A righteous man hateth lying: but a wicked man is loathsome, and cometh to shame.
⁶ Righteousness keepeth him that is upright in the way: but wickedness overthroweth the sinner.
⁷ There is that maketh himself rich, yet hath nothing: there is that maketh himself poor, yet hath great riches.
⁸ The ransom of a man's life are his riches: but the poor heareth not rebuke.
⁹ The light of the righteous rejoiceth: but the lamp of the wicked shall be put out.
¹⁰ Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
¹¹ Wealth gotten by vanity shall be diminished: but he that gathereth by labour shall increase.
¹² Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.
¹³ Whoso despiseth the word shall be destroyed: but he that feareth the commandment shall be 

Proverbs 17:25  A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him.

Proverbs 19:26  He that wasteth his father, and chaseth away his mother, is a son that causeth shame, and bringeth reproach.

And just in general God gives us specific instructions on how to be a better person all round:
Genesis 1:28 He tells us to be fruitful and multiply.  The global government would have you believe that we have too large of a population to sustain our lifestyle claiming shortage of food and why many are starving. In actuality people are starving because of Greed, nothing to do with food not being available. The sad reality of it is that the food is only available to some and that is WRONG

We are to listen far more than we speak. James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:  Slow down in conflict situations. Avoid speaking and listen this will help to contain your reaction

 When we speak we are to use only uplifting words not words that hurt. Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones  and James 3:10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be. Set up a swear jar -Every penny represents a swear word in order to help you to stop

 Titus 2:1-15
But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine:
² That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience.
³ The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
⁴ That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
⁵ To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
⁶ Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.
⁷ In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity,
⁸ Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you.
⁹ Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters, and to please them well in all things; not answering again;
¹⁰ Not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.
¹¹ For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men,
¹² Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;
¹³ Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ;
¹⁴ Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.
¹⁵ These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.

These are just a few scriptures that help us to live the way our Creator intended. There are many many more.   My wish is that this may help each one of us to live a little differently starting today :)
GOD BLESS XOXOXOXO